Fred
Young Men from 18+ listen,
Unconditional love deos not exist.
There is nothing like unconditional love amongst the human race; if you are waiting, hoping, and looking for someone to love you unconditionally, then you will old and die without finding love.
Argue with me: that’s your problem; try to bring religion into this; it’s your problem.
Just know that anybody who loves you today and will love you tomorrow will love you based on certain conditions.
To some, the conditions are clearly defined, but to some, it’s not clearly defined. Just know that there is always a reason for loving something as long as there is always a reason for hating something.
Philosophically, without hate, love doesn’t exist, and without love, hate doesn’t exist.
Both constructs are in existence because they complete each other.
Unconditional love may exist amongst Gods, I don’t know, and that’s because I’m not a citizen of their realms, but in the realm of mortals, love is subjectively tied to conditions and can not be objectively defined.
Love is a cause and effect; without a reason, there is purpose, and without purpose, there is no desire to pursue any object.
They must always be something that propels or sponsors one person to love another person.
Although it can happen naturally it can’t happen without a force, soonest you might discern the force clearly or be ignorant of it.
Just save yourself from the illusion that your spouse loves you unconditionally, stop deceiving yourself.
Without selfishness, there is no desire to love, humans are too selfish to love unconditionally.
Their love must draw reference from something charming they find about you, either your personality type, your beauty, your body shape, etc.
Something about you is appealing to their desire and it’s sponsoring them to make a choice and choose you for themselves.
Know this and know peace.
Nobody on earth is born to love you just like that. Nobody can, and nobody has the power to live that way.
Anybody that loves you must love you for a reason.
Take note.
Be wise.
Edo Baba
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Nice article.
Their is no such thing as unconditional love.
All we have is selfishness or love.
What is love?
What is selfishness?
Selfishness is doing something that satisfies you.
Love is doing something that benefits or satisfies the other.
I can decide not to spend on my woman , because spending on her will affect my survival somehow.
That’s selfishness.
I can also decide to give my gal friend because if she is happy or acts a particular way or wear the clothe I bought for her, I am satisfied.
Because I am satisfied that she is happy, this is not love.
It is still selfishness.
It is something I do to feel good.
Normally , people mistake trying to make their gal friend happy as love.
But the question is, why do you try to make her happy?
Are you making her happy so that she becomes happy and you feel better because she is happy ?
If its the case, its not love.
Most of the things we call love fall in this category, and you see that by attaching my personal feelings to it , its not love but selfishness.
Now people think of this as love, that’s why their is another word like Unconditional love.
Because we think that selfishness is love, we then see that its possible to also love without feelings, we call that unconditional love.
But the truth is that unconditional love doesn’t exist.
All we have is love or selfishness.
Whatever good thing you do for someone out of feelings is not love but selfishness.
What ever you do for someone without feelings, you just want to do it or give it out because you have more than enough or that its not that a big deal for you.
Then its love.
Because we are humans.
Our feelings drive our actions.
Because of this, its almost impossible to see someone who love without feelings ( give without expecting to receive or feel good about the act of giving).
Hence comes the clause ” unconditional love doesn’t exist”
Yes truly, unconditional love doesn’t exist, what exist is just love
And love is giving without feelings or expectation.
The money you gave to a beggar without feeling pity for him or her, the money you gave to your gal friend because you have more than enough, not because you want her to love you more.
The help you rendered just because you are free, whatever good thing you do, because its convenient for you is love.
That’s why its said, you cannot love anyone if you ve not loved yourself.
This means that what ever a man gives should be something that self love has driver him to acquire in abundance.
That way, you will give your time, resources, money without expectation or feeling,
Because you already have everything that you will expect or feel.
This is what people call unconditional love but its not.
Its just love.
On hate.
Hate is not the opposite of love.
If love is giving without feelings or expectation then their can never be hate if one gives without feeling or expectation.
Hate happens when one gives out of feelings( selfishness)
And what he gives is not returned. He or she forcefully want to take back the self-less act he or she gave, because the other person was not self-less to make him feel selfish in return of his kindness.
So we hate.
Selfishness makes one hate people not love.
Selfishness makes one become selfless( the so called love) to become selfish( get love in return)
And if love is not returned for long, he or she will now have nothing to give and will be forced to take back everything he or she gave.
Thats hate.
Now if love should have an opposite.
It shouldn’t be hate.
Cause hate is a feeling and love is not.
Only a man that has a balance between his thoughts and feeling will be able to love( so called unconditional love that doesn’t exist).
If love should have an opposite it should be FEAR.
You dont love what or who you fear and you dont fear what or who you love.
Its either you love someone or you fear that person.
If I was to give a dark truth about love.
I will tell men to love women( with the way I defined love) dont expect women to love them rather behave in a way that make some fear them.
Love comes with heavy loads of disrespect to the person receiving the love.
Thats why men must be lovers and women the receivers.
What we have is love , nothing like unconditional love.
Thank you.