Unveiling The Selfishness Of Women

Understanding the nature of women is crucial to having a healthy relationship with them. Most men enter into relationship with women without having idea of what women want from men.

I used to be ignorant of women’s selfish nature when I was younger until my ex girlfriend left me for another guy. When I asked her about her reason for calling it quit with me, she told me that love can’t pay her bills.

My perspective about women’s selfish nature became clearer when I stumbled on one of Mike Tyson’s podcasts on YouTube. The legendary boxer told US rapper Baddaz Boosie that no woman can ever love a man like his mother. He went further by saying that whatever a woman does for her lover is for her OWN survival but whatever a mother does for her son for his own survival. 

The ancient wisdom that Mike Tyson dropped on that clip troubled me throughout that day that I watched it, it opened my eyes to the world of women that I was totally ignorant about, so I began to educate myself about the daughters of Eve.

Women are very intentional about their objective for getting involved with a man. At the top of women’s priority list before entering into a relationship is material benefits. They are less keen on forging a relationship that won’t upgrade them financially. Economic considerations are usually placed above their emotional feelings.

Most women enter into a relationship with expectations. They stay put in the relationship as long as their expectations are met. Their interests in their partner begin to wane the moment that he is no longer able to provide for their needs. 

It is not unusual to see women walk out of their marriage shortly after their husband lost their job or his business suffered as a result of low patronage or unfavorable government economic policies. The love that she has for him dies immediately and she becomes either disrespectful towards him or she starts cheating on him.

Women are more likely to leave a relationship than men because they are loyal to their feelings. According to a study carried out by Stanford University on How Couple Meet and Stay Together (HCMST) survey, it was established by the data collated that around 69% of divorces in a heterosexual marriage are filed by women. 

In this part of the world (Africa), it is almost like a norm for women to feel entitled to the money of their lover. Most women hand over the financial obligations to their lover shortly after they start dating. They won’t think twice about walking out of the relationship if their boyfriend refuse to give in to their selfish demands. The most annoying part of it is that women make incessant demands without putting the financial implications that it will have on their lover especially if he is trying to make ends meet. It is all about their interest and nothing else matters.

Women project their selfish nature through hypergamy. Hypergamy is a practice where relationship is formed with someone who is of higher socioeconomic status. Women often priortises hypergamy because of their selfish nature. Majority of women will readily choose a man of means over a poor man. A classical example is Regina Daniel and Ned Nwoko. Hypergamy made the Nollywood actress to marry the Nigerian billionaire despite knowing that he has five wives.

Having an insight into the selfish nature of women can help a man not to build his happiness on his wife/girlfriend. He should rather focus on building his happiness on his purpose. His purpose won’t leave him when things are not working well, his purpose won’t disrespect him when he loses his job or his business isn’t doing well. 

Any man who priortises his purpose over the emotional comfort that his lover offers him will never be at the receiving end if she walks out the door. He may miss her but he will be too focused on his purpose to become a shadow of himself due to his failed relationship.