SIX(6) AREAS MEN NEED TO IMPROVE BEFORE GETTING MARRIED.

A man’s true wealth is in his development. How do you develop yourself then? Understanding what qualities men love in a relationship and in marriage can be a key part of this personal growth.

We list out 6 ways you need to improve before committing to a spouse.

1. FINANCIAL SECURITY –

Research by Uta State University has shown that financial problems contribute to 20-40% of all divorces. This means that out of ten(10) marriages that end in divorce, four(4) of them were caused by lack of finance.

As a man, you must fix your financial life to some appreciable extent to give your marriage a good chance of healthy longevity.

Any man planning to get married must ensure that he is financially stable, has a job, or legal streams of income capable of giving him some responsible level of financial freedom.

Money is an essential tool that helps to build beautiful relationships and marriages, and the lack of it has terminated so many relationships and marriages.

2. COMMITMENT – Marriage is beyond finding a woman and marrying her. It involves a man must devoting himself to be committed to the woman.

Marriage is a choice; most men don’t have a strong commitment level when it comes to building last relationships, and they are quickly distracted.

It’s important that before marriage, a man must make a strong resolve to always choose his wife and honour his vows. Failure to adhere to this level of commitment will endanger the health of the marriage.

3. MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL STABILITY – There is always a mental and emotional side in both relationships and marriage. Marriage is more psychological.

Before going to marriage, a man must make sure he is prepared mentally and emotionally to withstand the psychological pressures that come with dealing with life and a wife.

Many relationships are in a state of jeopardy because the men are mentally and emotionally weak.

To avoid jeopardy, he must take good care of his mental and emotional health to be stable so they will not be overwhelmed with the psychological impact after marriage.

4. RESPONSIBILITY – This can not be overemphasized. A man must learn to be responsible to himself first.

We see this by how you approach life, how organized you are, how you treat people, and most importantly, how much accountability you have.

Men who are not responsible live their lives to change and are not ready to take charge of their lives, and this is a sign that they can’t put the family they are about to have in order.

Responsibility is a strong, non-negotiable trait any man who wants to marry must have.

5. LEADERSHIP – There are men who know nothing or little about leadership, and this is a serious problem that can injure the state of marriage.

As a man, you need to have the qualities to lead people. Qualities like confidence, vision, purpose-driven, assertiveness, charisma, discipline, integrity, respect, honesty, love and kindness, etc.

Without these qualities, there is little chance that your marriage will survive the test of time.

6. LOVE – before you can give someone love, you must first of all have it and also know what love genuinely is.

Unfortunately, certain men know nothing about love; they think love is just a feeling and attraction, but then it stretches beyond that.

Love is commitment, trust, forgiveness, kindness, passion, loyalty, compromise, etc.; if you are not ready to initiate these features in your marriage and lifestyle, it will affect your health.

Men must prepare themselves before marriage and not in marriage.

Preparing before marriage gives you the understanding to manage some challenges that you may face in marriage.

We encourage men who are yet to marry to seek advice from marriage experts, ask questions, read books, and get counsel that will enable them to improve themselves before marriage.

Be wise.