14 Telltale Signs that She’s Serious About You — a Guide for Men

Okay, there’s this girl you’ve been involved with — a new chick or a current girlfriend. She likes you (you know it), and you like her too. She’s nice and respectful, enjoys your company, laughs at all your jokes, and lends a helping hand when you need one. And even her body language says she likes you.  

But that’s just it — likes you. 

However, deep down you want more. You wish things can get more…well, elevated. And the possibility of a happy-ever-after with her makes your heart warm. You have your commitment in hand, ready to bestow it on her. But you’re not sure if this energy is mutual. And so you’ve come here to know some of the telltale signs that a woman is serious about you. 

Well, when it comes to female nature, things are often wrapped in mystery. And that’s natural, don’t hate them for that; years of societal programming has made the female gender less expressive of their feelings and more mellow on their reactions. As a result, it’s not always easy to know when a female “likes” you, not to mention when she is “serious” about you. She’s never going to tell you (unless on rare occasions). So to find out, you really have to be observant, relying on clues and cues to figure out. 

This article reveals some of the signs that a woman is serious about you. Whether she’s your love interest or your existing girlfriend, you’re going to find out your place in her life so that you can make wiser and safer decisions.  

That said, below are 14 telltale signs that a woman is serious about you.

 

1. Gives access 

It’s a known fact that women are stingy with access to their selves and intentional about whom they want in their personal space. So, if a woman makes these available to you, then it should be considered a privilege and a clear sign that she either likes you or is serious about you. 

A woman that likes you will make everything easy. Or relatively so. You don’t have to use fancy lines to entice her into giving out her number. You don’t have to ask twice for a hangout or break your bank on a date night. You don’t have to ask, persuade or coerce before she complies. She makes life comparatively easy for you, because she, too, wants you. 

Consider the following questions: 

Does she flirt back or at least blush when you flirt with her? Does she feel comfortable with physical contact with you? Women are irritated by a touch from someone they don’t like, so you can rely on her reaction to make your judgement. Does she allow you visit her house or workplace, or is she at least open to the idea? When you take a step further with romance, does she allow you or pull back? Does she intimate you about the things going on in her life? 

A woman giving you access into her life or personal space is one of the surest signs that she likes you. And how much she allows you in could reveal just how serious she is about you.

 

2. Wants to be around you  

While this category is closely related to point one, “gives access,” they are quite different. A woman can give access without necessarily genuinely wanting you around. Sounds contradictory? Wait until you meet a gold digger.  

Women are by their very nature caring and nurturing, especially to those they like. If she wants you around or enjoys your presence, then she likes you.  

Just be sure to know if she’s giving you access into her space for her own personal gains, or if she really wants to be around you. 

Does she ask to see you or make efforts towards that? Is she compliant when you suggest meetups? Is she excited about and comfortable with seeing you anywhere and any time, instead of only where and when it’s comfortable for her? Is she clingy and almost obsessive with being around you? Is she okay with long meetup durations or seems to be in a rush most of the time? Pay attention to these details to properly gauge her level of interest in you.

3. Wants to know your house  

A home is a place of comfort, safety and privacy. If her interest in you goes beyond just liking you and transcends into wanting to get serious about you, a woman would desire these things from you. And only a home (your home) can offer these to her, not even a 5-star hotel. I say this from a deep, personal experience.  

So, this girl and I would have flings from one hotel to another. We had a lot of fun and memorable experiences. We dined, wined, and partied whenever and whenever — and I paid her generously for her time. But I would never bring her home, as a personal rule.  

She seemed okay with it initially. However, as our interactions grew, our connections began to grow, too. She soon began to demand that we take our activities home, saying that she was sick of “the whole hotel thing,” as she called it. This was a street girl (pardon my language) wanting to take things from the streets to a home, in spite of all the luxuries and experiences of hotel life. 

So, if she wants to know your house, it’s clear as daylight that she wants something deeper with you. Just make sure she merits it, though.

4. Prioritizes you & protects your interests 

What do people do when they value something? They prioritize and protect it. 

Keep an eye open to see if your woman prioritizes and protects you and your interests. Speaking of prioritizing you, for example: does she avail herself or long to see you? Does she pick up or respond when you call, text, or chat? And how quickly? Does she seem to put your needs and interests before those of other people or hers? These are some signs that she values and prioritizes you.  

When it comes to protecting your interests, check to see if she’s supporting or encouraging them. While she doesn’t have to really believe in them, women are interesting creatures (and I mean this with respect and admiration) with a tendency to rally behind a man they love and respect. They can also quickly adopt the interests, characters, or inclinations of such man; this is called mirroring. 

For instance, she might not be a lover of football but would begin to watch games or just show interest because you do. She might not give a sh*t about Chelsea, but could become a fanatical supporter because of you. She can change her accent, mannerisms, and so on to copy you. A woman can confess to loving short men just because an ex whom she loved so much was short; weird but real.  

If she prioritizes and protects your interests, you can be sure that she wants something deeper with you. 

5. Interested in your growth  

A woman who likes you will want your growth, for sure. But when it comes to a woman who is really serious about you, she would be especially interested and invested in it.  

The reason isn’t farfetched. Relationship is a two-way thing, and a win for one is a win for two. If she’s interested in your growth and well-being, that simply means that she’s also looking out for herself, because she sees herself in a future with two of you together. No one plants where they don’t expect to harvest from. 

Just make sure to know that her interest in your growth is well-rounded and not just about the finances. A woman who truly loves you will be keen on your financial, physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being development and well-being. 

A few things to consider: Does she try to help you save and invest, or is she more interested in spending? Does she provide emotional support when you’re down? Does she encourage your pursue opportunities and goals? Does she make good suggestions and contributions that promote your well-being in the areas discussed? Does she offer her own resources (including MONEY!) as a sacrifice for your growth? Answers to questions like these will help you measure how serious she is about you. 

 

6. Acts of kindness  

As humans, some of the ways by which we show love and care is through acts of kindness — big or small, through words or actions. 

Granted, women are naturally kind and nurturing, but they aren’t all that benevolent with these traits towards just any random man. So if she shows a sufficient level of care and kindness towards you, chances are that she really likes you.  

This can be tricky, though. Is she naturally a kind person or are you enjoying a privilege? How much care is enough care? Most men lack genuine or sufficient love and care from women, so they can easily misjudge or overhype any little show of these traits by women. Also, is she simply returning your good energies, or is she offering genuine support as someone who truly has your interests in her heart? Will she go out of her way to lend a helping hand? How eager is she to respond to your needs? 

Kind gestures can communicate affection, and the extent to which she takes things up to determines how serious your woman is about you. Remember — they aren’t very generous with these things. Sad but true. 

I will leave you with a sh*t test — ASK HER FOR MONEY HELP. Most men are loath to do this, but go ahead and try it. The reasoning behind this is that most women will render any kind of help but money. Any woman ready to sacrifice her money for you is serious about you. This is probably one of the best proofs of whether a woman is serious about you or not (liking you isn’t enough!) 

7. Regular checkups

Most people (male and female) are busy with their lives and barely have time to get on the phone to text or call someone for casual talks. Yes, we are that selfish as humans (or that serious).  

When it comes to relationships, this trait is even far more pronounced particularly in the female gender, for it’s not very characteristic for women to reach out to check up on someone. Sad but true. Apart from this being their nature, the female gender receives a jaw-dropping amount of attention from a large number of men. She doesn’t have to be cheating, interested in these men, or even ask; they would shower her with lots of attention and care. 

So in the midst of this stiff “competition”, it makes sense that if a woman checks on you regularly, it’s a clear sign that she not only likes you but also prioritizes you. Or she’s serious about you. 

Here are a few things to think about: 

Is she reaching out to you regularly or even once in a consistent while? Is she doing these even under inconvenient circumstances for her, say, during her work hours, or very early in the morning or late at night? Does she ask other people to say hello to you on her behalf? Does she seem to find ways to always be in touch, even when it’s not all that important? 

These are some pretty good indicators of high interest in you.

 

8. Talks/acts in future terms 

Women already have more than enough attention from the male species and are, as such, already overwhelmed by it. If she likes you and wants something more serious, she’s going to avoid superficial connections and lean more towards discussions that go deeper.  

Look out for hints, small and big.  

For example, she might want to know your real name/s, instead of your nickname, which indicates interest for the long-term. She might begin to use personalized words like “we” and “us”, instead of “me” or “you”. She might begin to talk or hint about a future with you two together.  

Other times, she might be more open and direct. That’s when you hear things like “what are we now?” or “I want us to define this relationship.” 

9. Deep & meaningful conversation  

Most men complain about women not being very open or forthcoming during conversations. This is especially true on phone chats where they only respond instead of initiate chats; or reply in a short, passionless, or delayed way. This only points to one fact — they’re not into these men.  

A woman that likes you and truly wants you will reciprocate your efforts and take initiative. In chats, for example, she would reply with long and meaningful texts, respond quicker and show more energy. She would ask questions more, instead of just answer.  

Try to vet the quality of conversations you have with your love interest. If she asks questions about your life, goals, and passions (and equally shares hers with you), that shows a reasonable amount of interest in you. Women don’t waste their time where they don’t want to be for long. 

10. Wants to see family  

Every romantic union starts with the couple and expands into both families. A woman who wants more from you will try to take the friendship home. She would introduce you to her family and friends, and try to know your own people, too. She’s crazy about you and wants to show you off to her circle or to know what they too think about you.  

This particular point is by far the surest evidence that a woman is serious about you.

11. Wants you to see her differently  

It’s popular knowledge that the dating pool has become messed up, and men now feel vulnerable due to numerous laws and standards that seem to work against them. This has made the male gender wary of women and reluctant about dating and marriage.  

Aware of this situation, any woman who is serious about you would want you to see you to see her differently.  

Is she putting efforts to impress you or get you to see her differently? Does she show extra care more than you know an average female to show? This can be something like regular checkups or regular gifting. During your birthdays and important celebrations, does she buy the usual underwear gifts, or does she go the extra mile?  

A woman that wants you will want you to see the unique value she brings to the table. 

12. Plays wifey roles  

One of the ways women endear themselves to men they want is to play wifey and/or motherly roles. When a woman likes a man and wants to keep him to herself, she automatically assumes a loving, nurturing and submissive position in his life. This is a consistent truth with women, regardless of whether she’s naturally masculine or feminine in energy. So, you can definitely trust you instincts that she wants things more serious if she shows these qualities. 

Is she eager in cooking (your favourite dishes) and doing house chores? Does she check on you regularly, give good advice, and try to stay supportive? Does she enjoy your company and probably reach out when it’s late and you’re not home? Does she enjoy couple activities like stepping out in matching outfits and taking photos together? How does she take care of you when you’re down financially, emotionally, or health-wise? Does she even avail herself? 

These are typical roles of good wives and loving mothers, so if she’s eagerly filling these positions, then she probably wants you for something serious. 

13. Willing to compromise  

This one is a no-brainer. Women generally have high — very high — standards. Try to find out what those standards are for your love interest. If she’s willing to let go of these, especially those that affect you, then, my friend, she really wants you. People change, even if only temporarily, for someone they care about and want.  

Compromising is sacrificing. She rolls only with the big boys but is eager to give you a chance. She’s into certain habits and lifestyles that you disapprove of, but she’s ready to eschew them for your sake. During arguments, she’s willing to let go for peace to reign. These are compromises, and only someone who is serious about you would make these sacrifices. There are stories of women in porn, for example, who turned down huge contracts and quit the industry when they found a particular man. 

Just be sure that someone is not using you as a backup plan or second option. Many men have been misled by selfish or tricky compromises. 

 

14. Secures her territory  

A bit of jealousy isn’t a bad thing. In fact, it’s one of the surest signs that she wants more than casual connections. It’s important to note how she acts when you’re getting attention from other girls. Is she displeased? Then it could be because she wants you all to herself. She’s marking her territory! 

Think about it — why would she get defensive or displeased and want exclusivity on your attention if she’s not into you? 

Of course, if her show of jealousy transforms into the green-eyed monster, then that’s become unhealthy and it’s time for you to back away. 

 

Making the most of your opportunity  

Paying attention to the signs that she wants a relationship with you can make all the difference in understanding her real feelings. From her body language and enthusiasm about your life to her eagerness to meet your family and friends, as well as you meeting hers, these signals could reveal her longing for a serious relationship.  

Look out for these clues — big or small, overt and subtle — and trust your guts. Chances are you’re right. Don’t forget, true love is all about taking risks, so make that bold step, make your feelings known and take the chance to take your connection next-level.