Six Red Flags: How To Spot A Woman Might Hurt You

It is difficult not to experience hurt in a relationship because of our imperfections as humans. It is an issue when it becomes a pattern and your lover (woman) doesn’t acknowledge her hurtful actions towards you. Narcissism is a nightmare to difficult to deal with in a relationship, it is important to educate oneself on this issue. Here are the six red flags that one must be very conscious of a woman who can hurt you:

Lack of Empathy
Empathy is the capacity to have an insight into what others are going through and share their feelings. A woman who lacks empathy is going to hurt you in future. If your lover is fond of disregarding your feelings, it shows that she is not an empathetic person. It is only a matter of time because she causes you a deep hurt. If it is a one time thing, such weakness can be excused but when it is a repeated pattern, you need to leave. A woman who is always demanding money from her partner without considering his financial capacity lacks empathy.

Frequent Criticism
Criticism can be an agent of improvement when it is constructively carried out especially when it is coming from one’s lover. However, when it becomes incessant, it is capable of compromising the self esteem of a man and makes him feel less of himself. A woman who criticises your every actions is going to hurt you. It shows that she doesn’t respect you as much as you respect her. It could also mean that she doesn’t feel that you are good enough for her. She is probably with you for monetary reasons or other benefits.

Ignoring Boundaries
Any relationship that isn’t built on a foundation of boundaries is a toxic one. Boundaries help couples to understand things that can tolerate from those that are unacceptable to them. When a girl repeatedly disregard her lover’s boundaries, it shows that she is a very toxic person. She has no respect for his personal space and values.
I once dated a girl who enjoys flirting with the opposite sex on Facebook. I told her to stop but she refused, so I dumped her because she didn’t understand the meaning of boundaries.

Lack of Mindfulness
Mindfulness refers to the habit of being completely conscious of our thought process and the words that we say and how they affect others. A girl who lacks mindfulness can say words and carries out actions that can hurt people without realising their impact. A woman who lacks mindfulness is a narcissist because she is a prisoner of her thoughts. She doesn’t realise the hurt that she might be causing her partner through her words and actions. Any man who cherishes his mental health will never have anything to do with a woman who lacks mindfulness.

Constantly Correct
No matter how perfect one can be, they can’t be right all the time. Any woman who claims to be right at all times will definitely hurt you if she is your lover. A woman who can’t accept her flaws and works on them can’t be teachable. A man doesn’t need such woman in his life if he priortises his peace of mind. A woman who always insists that she is right will rather engage in an unending argument than submit to a superior judgement. Entering into a relationship with a woman who always claim that she is right will be emotionally draining for a man.

Over-helping
A supportive partner is an asset to a man’s life especially when she is always there for him. When a woman is overly assisting her partner, it could lead to a strain in their relationship. A woman’s penchant for always helping her lover may erode his confidence and make him feel inadequate. It is nice to help sometimes but it is okay to allow a person to figure out things by himself. A man is supposed to be a leader. How can he hone his leadership skills if he doesn’t solve his problems without his lover breathing down his neck?

Conclusion
Any woman who displays any of the aforementioned six red flags and she isn’t willing to change is a toxic person. Like I always say, looks are cosmetic compared to personality when choosing a lover. Beauty can’t sustain a relationship like good attributes. Know this and know peace.