12 Types of Women You MUST AVOID in Relationships!

With this generation of women (men too!) becoming increasingly worse than the one before and the dating pool becoming more and more polluted, it is beyond important to be very cautious when it comes to making a choice of partner for relationship or marriage choices.

“Look before you leap,” they say.

This article aims to provide men with uses insights into particular personality types amongst women that can lead to unhealthy or unfulfilling relationships.

By exploring 12 types of women to avoid in relationships, this article promotes self-awareness and empowers men to make better guided decisions for healthier, happier, and longer-lasting relationships.

Let’s get started.

1. The Manipulator

A manipulative woman is likely to control and trick others for her own advantage. Some of her cunning strategies she uses to achieve her targets may include guilt-tripping, emotional blackmail, gaslighting, or outright deceit.

It’s important to stay vigilant for people who don’t respect limits and only care about their own needs and well-being while overlooking their partner’s.

The manipulative woman can be very charming. She dazzles and seduces, luring men with her beauty and personality. Don’t fall for this. Underneath that stunning exterior is a cunning spirit that hungers to control and exploit.

She will shower you with attention and care, then pull back when you’re entrapped; she will weaponize sex or withhold affection until you do her bidding; she will accuse you of cheating to cover up her own cheating exploit; she will cry and make you apologize for “her own” wrongdoings.

Keep an eye open for women who lie for a living, because her sweet face, swirling hips, melodious voice, and smooth tongue will bring you nothing but pain and regret.

2. The Drama Queen

This woman loves to create unnecessary scene and trouble in her relationships. She feeds off a constant need for attention and validation, and this will drain you. It’s impossible to maintain a stable and positive relationship with someone who always yearns conflict and thrives on negative energy.

Call on the phone to check on her and she will complain that you’re calling too much. Reduce the frequency of calling and she will nag about you not caring enough.

Ignore her during a heated argument, and she will get mad that you’re not reacting. Usually she would raise the level of toxicity and might even go physical on you. Ignore her and her spirit even more, and you’re “not man enough.” Defend yourself even non-violently, and you’re “a woman beater.”

Be careful about a woman who lives on chaos, because her chaotic nature can sap your energy and upset your emotional stability.

3. The Narcissist

The narcissistic woman is a sum-total of all the traits on this post, a true harbinger of bad character. Her chief traits include manipulation, controlling, selfishness, you name it.

She has a bloated sense of self-importance and is always looking for attention. She lacks empathy and will exploit others for her personal gain. A relationship with a narcissistic personality can be emotionally abusive and draining.

She’s sneaky and covert — watch out! Like a spider, she will weave her invisible web so that she can trap and feed off you.

Here’s how she operates.

Initially, she’s loving, charming, nurturing and helpful — oh my! She seems to embody all the right qualities you admire. She pretends to like all things you. She loves your family and friends — or so you think. In your mind, you’ve met your soul mate.

But that’s all a lie. Don’t fall for this.

The woman you’re falling in love with is a mirage; she does not exist. Rather, she’s a viper waiting to strike and swallow its meal whole!

It’s self-sabotage, if not suicide, to go into any kind of relationship with a narcissistic woman. Beware of the charm of this woman, for her inability to see beyond herself can lead to emotional emptiness and disharmony.

Hit the eject button and disengage immediately.

4. The Gold Digger

According to Wikipedia, a gold digger is “…typically a woman who engages in a type of transactional relationship for money rather than love.”

That’s right. Now you know who she is — a leech or even 304 (in mind, at least).

This woman is basically motivated by material wealth and financial security. She values possessions over deep and genuine personal compatibility; she will exploit her man’s resources.

Ascertaining if a woman is a gold digger involves observing her behaviour and priorities over time. Sure signs might include a consistent focus on material wealth, abnormal interest in your financial level, or an inclination towards engaging in conversations or activities that they gain from financially. Also, try to find out if she has a string of exes who are increasingly richer than the past one, for gold diggers are social climbers.

Beware of a woman who seems to show far more interest in what she can gain from you than in building real emotional connections. She can leave you emotionally and financially bankrupt.

As a matter of fact, if there’s one woman you shouldn’t get even a mile close to, it’s the gold digger (and the cheater! — VERY IMPORTANT).

5. The Obsessed

Women who are obsessed with their partner tend to be excessively jealous and possessive.

For real, though, it’s important to have some level of these qualities in a relationship, as they are indicators of a caring heart. (If you’re opposed to this idea, then try item-8 (The Apathetic) as a partner, then you will see.) However, though, the “excessive” quality ruins the energy, as things can become toxic.

Women who jealousy and possessiveness usually lack trust and try to control their partner’s choices, actions, relationships (with others), and general freedom.

“Who is he calling? What is he thinking about? He might be with another woman right now,” she would think to herself. Consumed by insecurity and jealousy, she would access his phone and issue stern warning to every female name (even his boss!) she sees on his directory, demanding that they “…stay away from my man!”

This is wrong, as trust and a sense of individuality are vital ingredients of a healthy union. A jealous and possessive woman will often get attached to you to the where they suffocate your progress and development. I’ve heard cases of women going as far as wishing that their husband loses his job so that he could stay away from other woman. This selfish and shortsighted desire is, of course, without a care about the other downsides of her evil wishes coming to pass.

Protect yourself against the controlling nature of an obsessed woman, for her insecurity can stifle your growth and autonomy.

6. The Clingy

A clingy girlfriend is not a bad partner. Let’s make that clear first of all.

Clingy lovers are usually partners who don’t feel appreciated or loved enough in a relationship. This absence of affection transits into insecurity, which then manifests in the form of a constant plea for love and attention. A clingy woman can even be a great partner; she just wants more from you.

And that, my friend, is the real definition of a clingy partner. Now, is that really a bad thing?

Well, maybe …sometimes.

As the saying goes, too much of everything is bad, and clinginess can graduate to obsession, which is excessive jealousy and possessiveness.

A clingy woman builds her life around her man such that she appears excessively insecure and dependent. Her constant need for attention, reassurance, and care can strain the emotional well-being of both individuals.

Even when you’re not in the mood, she will constantly try to get you to cuddle, kiss and pet her. And this can get really obnoxious over time.

What to do?

Take it easy on her. Being confrontational or judgemental will push her away or make her feel unwanted and unloved (which can worsen her clinginess). Note that she’s not like the other categories of women on this list. With compassion, make her to understand that you sometimes need your space and autonomy.

Be mindful, though.

If her clinginess is in the area of being perpetually dependent on you for her financial stability (even after several efforts to improve the situation), it might be time to call it quits.

Also if clinginess metamorphoses into obsession, you might have to reconsider the future of that relationship. It’s simply not sustainable.

7. The Perpetual Victim

Men are conditioned to be foot mats — “happy wife, happy life”. We are taught from childhood that women are “the weaker vessels”. They are harmless and helpless.

As a consequence, when something goes wrong, everyone believes that the man must have done something wrong, hence the woman is the victim.

Women understand these things. And bad women take advantage. Manipulative women know that they can get away with abuse or just about anything, merely by acting like an helpless and innocent victim.

It works most of the time.

She would cry, gaslight, guilt-trip, blame, and employ every tactic under her sleeves — sometimes while being even the one who victimized you. She portrays herself as a helpless victim, seeking sympathy and emotional support. While it’s important to stand by a partner through trying times, a woman who has a consciously loves to play victim is a narcissist and manipulator. Avoid her for your personal growth and emotional well-being.

8. The Emotionally Detached

An emotionally detached or unavailable person is someone who is not open to sharing their feelings or emotions. They may be unable to express their emotions, or they may simply choose not to do so. This can make them seem distant, uninterested, or even cold

A woman might be everything you want in a partner — beautiful, shapely, well-educated, cultured, respectful, faithful, etc. — but emotionally unavailable. And that’s a hard pill to swallow.

An emotionally detached woman is unable to form deep emotional connections or show vulnerability. She’s not open to sharing her feelings or emotions, or might to not do so. This makes her appear distant and cold.

Pursuing a romantic relationship with an emotionally aloof person can lead to frustration and lack of fulfillment. It’s just NOT advisable. Imagine being in a relationship where affection is scarce, communication feels mechanical, and you constantly have to ask if you have offended someone. That’s mentally and even physically draining.

Emotional compatibility is the soul of every meaningful relationship. True, unforced connection is vital for love to thrive.

Don’t get involved with an emotionally unavailable woman. But if you must, then approach with caution, as her cold attitude will leave you desiring some warmth and intimacy. Or worse — chasing even harder and risk becoming clingy yourself.

9. The Fishwife

This woman is disrespectful and nagging. A proper fishwife, she can be vulgar, abusive, loud and unpleasant, too, if put under stress.

She’s in the habit of criticizing her partner’s choices, actions, or even his appearance. Her controlling and nagging nature constantly embarrasses him and can erode his self-confidence.

Constant disrespect, endless nagging, and continuous loudness can water down harmony and erode the foundations of love. It’s “…better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife,” the Bible admonishes.

Be wary about a woman who constantly disrespects you and nags at every thing. Constant criticism and dark energy can harm your self-confidence and create an unhealthy union.

10. The Controller

A controlling woman seems to dominate all aspects of the relationship. Like a dictator, she decides how her partner should dress or behave, or who he spends his time with or resources on.

Relationships with this woman often lack mutual respect and liberty, leading to a suffocating and oppressive kinetic. Acting like your boss, she would zoom in on all aspects of your life, which can feel encroaching, disrespectful and even belittling. Her overweening and overbearing presence chips away at your self-esteem and freedom, which can leave you feeling emasculated and useless.

And mind you, sometimes this controlling approach can be subtle, like manipulation. It’s not always loud and clear. It can come soaked in overdose of love, care and attention — knowingly or even unknowingly. You just have to be awake enough to see it for what it is.

In any case, don’t be the helpless marionette that this puppet master manipulates at the strings according to her whims and caprices. Don’t let her dictate your movements and stifle your freedom. Stand up for yourself and demand — yes, DEMAND — your respect and individuality.

11. The Ungrateful

An unappreciative woman defaults in recognizing and showing gratitude for the efforts and contributions of her man. She would often make incessant demands and set ridiculous expectations, then end up underrating these acts of kindness and showing  entitlement.

It’s a blessing to have a woman who acknowledges your little efforts. This can be the foundation for a deep and lasting union, as well as a motivation for the man to do more. Besides, it’s also a good feeling to know that the source of your income which provides this value is respected and appreciated.

On the other hand, a relationship with an unappreciative (yet entitled!) woman can result in feelings of resentment and unhappiness, as she takes these things for granted. Her ingratitude will leave you feeling unfulfilled and stifle your willingness to contribute further to the relationship. This puts the sustainability of that relationship in jeopardy.

Keep in mind, also, that this kind of woman will likely be a social climber or is not going to be with you for the long-term. If she’s not acknowledging your sacrifices, she’s likely to have eyes on bigger things. If she’s not appreciating your efforts.

12. The Cheating or Promiscuous

A cheating or promiscuous woman is inclined towards having more than one sexual partner and has a high chance of sexual irresponsibility. Both are women to avoid completely, for not only does their behaviour show a lack of commitment and respect, it also serves as a danger sign.

A woman who falls under either category will sleep with your brother, father, friends, neighbours, and boss. Or even your houseboy, the gatekeeper or the driver. Or ANYBODY! A proper whore, she has no boundaries and lacks respect for herself. Just be sure to run paternity tests on “your” kids if you have the courage to have them with her, for they might belong to one of these men. What’s worse, it’s only a matter of time before she poisons you to your death and runs away with her new lover.

If she’s promiscuous or has such tendency, DON’T wife her or even keep her for anything deep. If she’s not promiscuous but cheated on you even once, call it quits with her, for she will do it again — and again. Lots of real cases exist which prove this. They will cry, plead, vow, and promise; don’t fall for that — there will be a repeat.

A relationship with a promiscuous or a cheating woman can lead to emotional stress, lack of truth, and constant suspicion. It creates room for toxicity in a relationship and stifles progress.

Stay very far away from these categories of women, for their lack of commitment and respect will destroy the ingredients of love and trust you seek, and their whorish behaviour is too much of a risk to bear.

If you must take just one point away from this note, let it be this one.

Wrapping up

By being aware of these types of toxic females, men can make informed decisions for their lives.

Asking certain key questions, too, can help men gain valuable insights into the values, attitudes and behaviours of their love interests. This helps them evaluate compatibility and spot any red flags. It’s important to listen to them carefully, watch their reactions keenly, and trust your instincts when weighing the potential for a positive and rewarding relationship.

Some critical questions to ask include the following:

• Tell me about your last relationship/s and what you have learned from them.
• How do you handle disagreements in a relationship?
• How do you express and handle emotions or stress in a relationship?
• What are your thoughts on open and effective communication in a relationship?
• What role does trust play in your relationships?
• What’s your idea of a healthy and fulfilling relationship?
• What’s your ultimate or long-term goal in life?

And suchlike!

Take care to keep these questions nice and respectful. And share your own perspectives, too. They will help you see the thoughts and patterns you need to make the best decision for yourself.

Final words: while this article advices keeping an eye open so that you can avoid these types of women, it is important to also keep an open and bias-free mind when approaching relationships. Placing a premium on qualities like community, respect, compatibility, and appreciation are vital for building and maintaining meaningful and fulfilling unions.