Breaking The Yoke Of Parasitic Relationship

Relationship between a guy and lady in this part of the world is mostly sustained by money. Relationship is mostly monetized by women. The moment a man asks a woman out, she is expecting him to take over her responsibilities. Most women equate money with love. If a man isn’t ready to open his wallet to a woman, she sees it as a sign that he isn’t in love with her.

In an ideal circumstance, relationship should be an avenue for lovers involved to grow their affections and emotional connection without burdening each other with their personal needs. Relationship thrives when two lovers share deep affection for each other while building their value individually. 

However, it is common for an average Nigerian woman to demand stuffs like data, money, airtime from their lover few days after he asked her out. If he declines her requests, she employs shaming tactics to either humiliate or ridicule him. She calls him a broke or stingy guy. She will tell everyone who cares to listen to her that she rather stays single than date broke guys. Some parasites masquerading themselves as women always say that any man who can’t take care of their needs isn’t worthy of their attention and affection. 

I think that poverty and laziness are responsible for the parasitic mentality of most Nigerian women regarding relationship. Most women see relationship as an opportunity to escape poverty. Laziness breeds entitlement mindset among our women. They keep putting their lover under intense pressure to meet their selfish needs. Most men keep yielding to the demands of their parasitic lovers because they have been mentally conditioned to feel that it is their responsibility to take care of the needs of their significant other.

Having highlighted the parasitic mindset of women, it is important to teach men how to free themselves from the yoke of women with parasitic mindset towards relationship. It takes stoicism for any man who wants to get immunity from parasitic women. Once a man puts on the armour of stoicism, no woman can manipulate him through guilt tripping or broke shaming to part with his money. 

Furthermore, it is important that men priortise themselves over the needs of their lover. Men must be 100% committed to their goals and self development. A stoic man can never trade his purpose for a woman. As a matter of fact, once a woman enters his life and he notices that she is interested in his money, he drops her like a hot potato because she is a leech. A woman who feels that it is the role of her boyfriend to meet her needs is completely useless. No smart man should have such idiot in his life because she is an enemy to his growth.

Men should know that it is not their responsibility to cater for the needs of their girlfriend. Adulthood comes with personal responsibility. Any girl who tries to pass over her responsibilities to her boyfriend is highly irresponsible. She isn’t going to add any value to her so called boyfriend’s life, rather she is going to distract him from achieving his goals. She is also not serious with her life, she is greedy and entitled to another man’s money. What should a man be doing with such riff raff?

Some parasitic women are so smart when asking men to take care of their needs. They go about their bad habits in a very subtle way of complaining about how hard life is for them. Whenever they are talking with their boyfriend, it is always centered on their needs or their financial struggle. It is a subtle way of telling their boyfriend that he should start playing the role of a father to them. As a stoic man, he should always think about himself, and his goals before thinking about her selfish desires. 

Another way of breaking the yoke of parasitic relationship is sexual discipline. Any man who wants to be free from parasitic relationship should learn to practice delayed gratification. Most men are trapped in parasitic relationship because they have no control over their libido. When a parasitic woman knows that a man isn’t sexually disciplined, she will manipulate him into meeting her needs with her body because she knows pleasure is his weakness. When a man is sexually disciplined, he can easily say no to a parasitic woman and he won’t be scared of losing her. 

Lastly, men should know that a woman’s beauty or her sexual prowess are not enough to earn his prized commitment. If a woman cannot take care of her basic needs, she has no business entering into a relationship. Any man who cares about his finances should be smart enough to stay away from jobless, selfish and entitled woman. Nothing good can come out of getting involved with her.